Katie, let me give you clue to those statements you wish had thought of after the fact. I was raised in a family full of boys. There is only a female born in my family about every 24 years. All the rest are boys. There are 1000’s of boys in my family. I was the youngest of 3 children and yes the two older ones were boys. Something was always blamed on me to take attention off of something they did wrong. My father was military, but not stupid. He knew that when I made a sarcastic remark over the accusations that one of my brothers blamed on me, it was my brothers who were at fault over something else they did. My mother on the other hand, to this day, believes that boys always tell the truth and girls are liars. (probably because she was as a child) It’s kind of funny, but after all these years, when my mother accuses me of something I didn’t do, my brothers always defend me. It’s only because they know I will lay waste to them by my mouth and my Sarcasim and Snappy Comebacks. It has always been my only line of defense in my brain.
You have to practice and utilize each scenario in your mind in order to have a quick comment when someone is blaming you or are giving you grief. Keep in mind that the things in life, that annoy you the most, you have to be prepared in advance with something to say to the person who is agitating you over something that really annoys you. The best time to jot down your thoughts is during pms, as it gives you the most dramatic and evil comebacks to someone who just grates on your nerves.
On the other hand, I am a double Aries, who could careless if I hurt your feelings because you made me mad, hurt my feelings, insulted me or blamed me for something I didn’t do. Being an Aries child I have found that humor in sarcasim and snappy comebacks benefits me more than the venom. (although I have tendency to use venom on occasion) It comes over insecurity of whether I can handle your attitude and the way you are treating me. I was taught to treat everyone with love and respect, but when I am not treated that way in return, I don’t know how to respond with out being honest over the way I feel at that moment. I find that others don’t know how to accept an honest opinion and they in turn walk away without response or say something that just doesn’t fit the whole scenario, or make light out of everything in their life, so they don’t feel bad over their actions.
Take heart, Katie. Just be who you are and if others offend you, make you feel inadequate, or insult your nature, they are the ones who have a problem. Love, respect , and accept all people, regardless, of whether you are given it back. You are teaching them a lesson on humanity.
I just had to post this, since in the last few weeks I have had so many people read this post all of a sudden. I am going to give you one Comeback, but you have to say it right, then turn and walk away from your opponent. This will leave your opponent without time to respond and feeling rather defeated for the moment. First you must look at them like they are completely stupid, then you must enunciate the word “ISN’T,…(2 second pause) THAT nice”. Then walk away shaking your head. They may be mad and respond with a quick and loud “YES IT IS”, don’t give them the benefit of making you mad, just keep walking. They have no control over a conversation that they are searching for a meaning when there really isn’t one. My best friend and I always used it on students with great success. As for my brothers always trying to blame me for something to take attention off of them, well, I was around 9 years old when my father confronted me on something one of my brothers accused me of doing when I didn’t even know what he was talking about. I looked at my military father (you know daddy’s little girl) with my big green eyes and said “, “It’s not my fault my brothers are liars and retarded I’m not their parent. He didn’t have a response, However he did charge down the hall taking his belt off and hitting it against the wall all the way down the hallway. My brothers, who were laughing in their bedroom, weren’t laughing when he hit it against their bedroom door.